Jealousy kills Love
Who among you does not feel that his power to love is boundless?
He is just giving you an example: Everybody feels that the power within him to love is boundless. But you have boundaries. How can the boundless be within you, who have boundaries? You must have read Leo Tolstoy’s famous story, How Much Land Does a Man Require? — how big is your grave going to be? In this small body you are aware there are things which are boundless. He is giving you the example of love, because that is more common and understandable. In the same way, time also dwells in you in its boundlessness. In the same way, space also dwells in you in its infinity.
It will be far better — perhaps not linguistically right… but I don’t care about language, I care about what is real. To say, “Love dwells within me,” is not right. It is better to say, “I dwell in love.” Then your boundaries cannot be the boundaries of love. Perhaps you have loved — but loved without any awareness. If you had loved with awareness you would not have said, “Love is in my heart.” No — your heart is in love. Love surrounds you — infinite love. And perhaps that is the reason no lover is satisfied — because his love is boundless and needs a response which is boundless. Every lover is in search of someone who can love boundlessly — there will not be any limitation on it — but your very idea that love dwells in you makes it a small thing.
Think that you dwell in love just as the fish dwells in the ocean, then you can share your love without any fear, then you know it is inexhaustible, then you need not be so miserly about it.
If love is understood as an oceanic feeling around you, there will be no jealousy.
Jealousy is the poison that kills all love and all its joy. But jealousy arises because of your basic misunderstanding. We go on thinking of love also as a quantity, so we are afraid: if the person you love also loves somebody else, you are immediately afraid. He was loving you two kilos — now only one kilo. And tomorrow, if he finds somebody else — only half a kilo! And in this way your love will go on disappearing; soon you will be sitting with your scales, with no kilos.
The whole of jealousy is based on the fear that love can be divided, that it is a quantity.
It is a quality. You can give as much as you want, to as many people as you want — to the whole world — still your sources are inexhaustible. There is no question of jealousy at all.
In my dreams of the future humanity, I always see that the day must come, one day, when there will be no jealousy, when there will be no anger, when there will be no quarreling over small things — because you have such a treasure of love, who cares about small things?
Love itself is such a fulfillment that you don’t need any other fulfillment. It is the nourishment of your very soul. And the day when there is a possibility of love without jealousy, we will have brought the kingdom of God on the earth.
That is where I differ from Jesus. Jesus wants you to enter God’s kingdom: I want you to bring God’s kingdom here on the earth — because this is an unnecessarily arduous thing, to convince so many people, “Come on, follow me, and I will take you to the kingdom of God.” Why not bring the kingdom of God here?
All the religions are angry with me, for the simple reason that they have all been exploiting humanity — that they will make arrangements for you in the kingdom of God. Naturally, they look at me as their most dangerous enemy, because I am telling you, “There is no need to go anywhere. We can pull the whole tent of God’s kingdom here, with God and all in it!”
There is no need to go anywhere. All that is needed is a deep understanding and awareness of love’s infinity.
This is an excerpt from the transcript of a public discourse by Osho in Buddha Hall, Shree Rajneesh Ashram, Pune.
The Messiah, Vol 2
Chapter title: This moment… the only reality
2 February 1987 pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium
Osho has spoken on ‘love, misery jealousy, relationship, guilt’ in many of His discourses. More on the subject can be referred to in the following books/discourses: