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BELOVED OSHO,
IT
IS FOR THE FIRST TIME I HAVE BEEN SO CLOSE TO YOU. WHEN I AM
SITTING HERE WITH YOU I FEEL MY HEART IN TUNE WITH YOUR HEART, I
FEEL A DEEP LOVE FOR YOU. BUT I ALSO FEEL MY OUTER SERIOUSNESS.
WHY
IS LAUGHTER SO DIFFICULT FOR ME?
Laughter
is one of the things most repressed by society all over the
world, in all the ages.
Society
wants you to be serious. Parents want their children to be
serious, teachers want their students to be serious, the bosses
want their servants to be serious, the commanders want their
armies to be serious. Seriousness is required of everybody.
Laughter
is dangerous and rebellious.
When
the teacher is teaching you and you start laughing, it will be
taken as an insult. Your parents are saying something to you and
you start laughing -- it will be taken as an insult.
Seriousness
is thought to be honor, respect.
Naturally
laughter has been repressed so much that even though life all
around is hilarious, nobody is laughing. If your laughter is
freed from its chains, from its bondage, you will be surprised
-- on each step there is something hilarious happening.
Life
is not serious.
Only
graveyards are serious, death is serious.
Life
is love, life is laughter, life is dance, song.
But
we will have to give life a new orientation. The past has
crippled life very badly, it has made you almost laughter blind,
just like there are people who are colorblind.
There
are ten percent of people who are colorblind -- it is a big
percentage, but they are not aware that they are colorblind.
George
Bernard Shaw was colorblind, and he came to know it when he was
sixty years old. On his birthday somebody sent a present, a
beautiful suit, a coat, but the person forgot to send a tie. So
Bernard Shaw went with his secretary to find a matching tie. He
liked the suit very much. He looked at ties and he chose one,
and the secretary was surprised; she could not believe it --
because the suit was yellow and the tie was green. She said,
"What are you doing? This will look very strange."
He
said, "Why will it look strange? It is the same
color."
The
manager, the salesman... they all gathered, and they tried in
many ways to find out.... He could not distinguish between
yellow and green; they both appeared the same to him. He was
colorblind.
But
for sixty years he was not aware of it.
And
there are ten percent of people in the world who are colorblind.
Some color they are missing, or maybe they are mixing it up with
some other color.
The
constant repression of laughter has made you laughter blind.
Situations
are happening everywhere, but you cannot see that there is any
reason to laugh. If your laughter is freed from its bondage, the
whole world will be full of laughter. It needs to be full of
laughter; it will change almost everything in human life.
You
will not be as miserable as you are. In fact, you are not as
miserable as you look -- it is misery plus seriousness that
makes you look so miserable. Just misery plus laughter, and you
will not look so miserable!
In
one apartment house... And modern apartments have such thin
walls that whether you want to or not, you have to hear what is
going on on the other side of the wall. In a way, it is very
human.
The
whole apartment house was puzzled about one thing.... Every
couple was fighting, throwing pillows, throwing things, breaking
cups and saucers, shouting at each other, husbands beating
wives, wives screaming -- and they don't need any loudspeaker
systems or anything, and the whole apartment house enjoyed.
The
only problem was with one sardarji. From his flat they never
heard any fight; on the contrary, they always heard laughter.
The whole crowd was puzzled: "What is the matter? These
people never fight. There is always laughter -- and both are
laughing so loudly that the whole building can hear it!"
One
day they decided that it had to be looked into: "We are
missing so much, and they are enjoying so much. What is their
secret?"
So
they caught hold of the sardarji as he was coming from the
market, carrying vegetables and other things. They all caught
hold of him and they said, "First you have to tell us that
what the secret is -- why do you laugh when everybody
fights?"
The
sardar said, "Don't force me, because the secret is very
embarrassing."
They
said, "Embarrassing? But we thought you are doing great. We
always hear laughter -- either you laugh or your wife laughs...
no fight."
The
sardar said, "What happens is, she throws things at me. If
she misses, then I laugh; if she hits me then she laughs. The
same things are going on, but it is just that we have made a
different arrangement -- what is the point? So I have learned
how to dodge her, and she is learning how to...."
After
twenty years the same sardar wanted to divorce his wife. The
magistrate had heard about them, that this was the only couple
in the whole city who had never been known to fight. They simply
laugh -- the whole city knows them as the laughing couple.
The
magistrate said, "What has gone wrong? You are so
famous."
The
sardar said, "Forget all about that -- just give us
permission to divorce."
But
the magistrate said, "I have to know the reason."
He
said, "The reason is very clear -- she hits me. And it is
too much; I have been getting those hits for years."
The
magistrate asked, "How long have you been married?"
He
said, "Almost thirty years."
The
magistrate said, "If you have been able to cope with the
woman for thirty years, then just ten, twenty years
more...."
He
said, "That is not the point. At first I used to dodge, but
now she has become such a good... there is no way that I can
dodge! So only she laughs, I have not laughed for ten years.
This is unbearable. In the beginning it was perfect; it was
almost fifty-fifty, there was no problem. I was laughing, she
was also laughing. But now a hundred percent of the time she
laughs, and a hundred percent I am just standing there, looking
like a fool. No, I cannot tolerate it any more."
Just
look around at life and try to see the humorous side of things.
Every
event that is happening has its own humorous side, you just need
a sense of humor.
No
religion has accepted the sense of humor as a quality.
I
want a sense of humor to be a fundamental quality of a good man,
of a moral man, of a religious man. And it does not need much
looking; you just try to see it, and everywhere....
Once
I was traveling in a bus when I was a student. The bus conductor
was in trouble because there were thirty-one passengers and he
had money only for thirty tickets. So he was asking, "Who
is the fellow who has not given his money?"
Nobody
would speak.
He
said, "This is strange; now how am I going to find
out?"
I
said to him, "Do one thing: tell the driver to stop the
bus, and tell the people that unless the person who has not
given the money confesses, the bus will not move."
He
said, "That's right."
The
bus was stopped. Everybody looked at each other, now what to do?
Nobody knew who the person was....
Finally
one man stood up and said, "Forgive me, I am the person who
has not given the money. Here it is."
The
bus conductor asked, "What is your name?"
He
said, "My name is Achchelal." Achchelal means "a
good man."
And
I was surprised that out of thirty people, nobody laughed! When
he said "Achchelal" I could not believe it -- a
"good man" doing such a thing... and nobody seemed to
see the humor in it.
Seriousness
has become almost part of our bones and blood. You will have to
make some effort to get rid of seriousness, and you will have to
be on the lookout -- wherever you can find something humorous
happening, don't miss the opportunity.
Everywhere
there are people who are slipping on banana peels -- just nobody
is looking at them. In fact, it is thought to be ungentlemanly.
It is not, because only bananas slip on banana peels.
Laughter
needs a great learning, and laughter is a great medicine. It can
cure many of your tensions, anxieties, worries; the whole energy
can flow into laughter. And there is no need that there should
be some occasion, some cause.
In
my meditation camps I used to have a laughing meditation: for no
reason, people would sit and just start laughing. At first they
would feel a little awkward that there was no reason -- but when
everybody is doing it... they would also start. Soon, everybody
was in such a great laughter, people were rolling on the ground.
They were laughing at the very fact that so many people were
laughing for no reason at all; there was nothing, not even a
joke had been told. And it went on like waves.
So
there is no harm... even just sitting in your room, close the
doors and have one hour of simple laughter. Laugh at yourself.
But
learn to laugh.
Seriousness
is a sin, and it is a disease.
Laughter
has tremendous beauty, a lightness. It will bring lightness to
you, and it will give you wings to fly.
And
life is so full of opportunities. You just need the sensitivity.
And create chances for other people to laugh. Laughter should be
one of the most valued, cherished qualities of human beings --
because only man can laugh, no animals are capable of it.
Because
it is human, it must be of the highest order. To repress it is
to destroy a human quality.
-Osho
The
Art of Dying
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